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Don’t let addictive patterns turn to co-dependency!
Co-dependency is a very real issue often affecting many couples who may not even be aware of it. It is an addiction in itself, ironically often resulting from one person in the relationship (who we shall refer to as the ‘caregiver’) taking responsibility and caring...
Will your romance become a relationship for life?
February, the month of romance, is a wonderful time of year when our thoughts turn to love and romantic liaisons. For some, it is a chance to commemorate and demonstrate our love for one another, but for many, especially the young, it can be an opportunity to turn a...
How to reset your responses for a better 2022!
To be honest I am always somewhat amused at the fuss around the change of the calendar year as if one were expecting some magical new beginning to take place on a certain date. Even the seasons largely ignore the exact time they are to begin and end, and as we all...
Divorce – the ABC of handling the big D!
A divorce can be an extremely difficult process for any couple or family. Regardless of whether children are involved or not there are legal, financial and emotional issues to be dealt with. There can be so many repercussions of divorce and there are many consequences...
Coping with trauma over the festive season
As we go into this time of year, with most of us looking forward to our holidays, Christmas and big New year’s celebrations, we are reminded that this is, as it has been affectionately dubbed, ‘the festive season.’ We should never forget though, or be insensitive to...
Turn your moving trauma into a positive emotional shift
There is no doubt that moving house is a pretty traumatic experience, especially when the move is to an entirely new area after you have been in one place for many years. It ranks right up there with the things in life that are said to be most stressful, like divorce...
Common ‘F’ words that can cause a marriage to fail!
There is one big ‘’F word that every Bride and Groom will never want to hear and it is Failure! Failure of their marriage – Failure, as a couple standing at the altar, to make the thing that they so treasure work “until,’’ as the Preacher says ‘’death do you part.’...
Important things to do before you say ‘’I do’’
Marriage can be a wonderful institution. Love, companionship, the rearing of children, spiritual togetherness and financial partnership - the list goes on and the benefits are great, but with one very specific condition…you need to go into it with your eyes wide open!...
Has freeze replaced fight or flight as a response to fear?
Right now with the recent events in the world, many people are feeling like they are simply in a state of limbo. What do you do when you don’t feel you can fight an unseen or unknown enemy or threat, as we have seen over the past 18 months, and flight is not an...
Are your values adding value to your life?
Once again we are being driven back into our COVID cocoons, sheltering ourselves from wave after wave of this cursed and relentless pandemic. Like facing a tsunami that just won’t quit, many of us are drowning in financial issues, relationship issues and our issues of...
What is a Business coach – and do I need one?
What is a Business coach - and do I need one? Many people confuse Business Coaches with Life Coaches, understandably so because there are some common goals and many Business Coaches are also Life Coaches. As confusing as that may sound,...
What is a Life Coach?
What is a Life Coach – and do I need one? There are 2 questions within the title of this article and obviously the former needs to be explained to ascertain the latter. These are only two of many questions that are asked though about life coaching and so I’m going to...
Control and release – both are the key to sweet relief
This title may seem confusing to you. Certainly control and release are contradictory terms and yet it requires both of these after a period of trauma to ultimately experience peace of mind and a purposeful life. This certainly was the case for me, and it was a...
It’s time to float – not swim against the current
As someone whose life is about facilitating ways for others to overcome challenges, realise their best attributes and live a meaningful, positive life, I hear about a lot of concern in times such as these. We are being bombarded by continually bad news and living...
Enter 2021 with a mind-set that will serve you well
2020 was a year probably most of us will choose to forget. Filled with unexpected twists and turns, some of them gut-wrenching from a psychological point of view, some so stressful they led to broken marriages and disrupted families and sadly innumerable physical...
How to manage the stress of renovations
Stress comes in many forms, with the death of a loved one, divorce, moving and financial stresses being rated amongst the highest. Another highly stressful event (probably in the top ten) is that of doing home renovations. With the pandemic drawing us all into our...
Starting anew is all about you – not seasonal, but personal – part 2
I seldom write on any subject in 2 parts, but the issue of ‘starting anew’ and transformation is such a big one and so important at this critical time following the pandemic, that it seemed appropriate to do so. Many of us have had to reassess our lives and our...
Starting anew is all about you – not seasonal, but personal – part 1
As we emerge from our COVID-19 cocoons we are constantly reminded of the importance of starting over – starting fresh – starting anew! Especially as we move into spring, we are told it is a time of renewal and new beginnings - now is the time to sow the seeds for the...
Gender equality is found in altering perceptions and self- empowerment
It was just a few months ago, ironically on the threshold of the lockdown, that we celebrated International Women’s day, where the main theme was the attainment of global gender equality, through self-empowerment. This month we have been celebrating our National...
Building resilience through knowing the self
The Oxford dictionary defines resilience as ‘the ability of people or things to recover quickly after something unpleasant, such as shock, injury, etc.’ - certainly a quality we could all benefit from in these troubled times. If you ever believed that resilience is...