Our perceptions are formed from our formative years, which can heavily influence our lives, those around us, and decision-making processing throughout various stages. This is because our decisions are often based on our perceptions, leading to an entirely subjective process, usually even when we have done our research. The way we absorb, interpret, process, and execute our decisions is filtered through our conditioned mind, which ultimately forms our perceptions.

To overcome this, we must be aware of our perceptions and how they affect our decision-making. If we are unhappy with the results, we must change our meaning-making process. This is where Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) comes in, helping us reframe our perceptions and create new, more positive, inclusive factors in our meaning-making process.

So, what questions should we ask ourselves? Firstly: “what are my current perceptions, and how do they affect my decision-making?” Secondly: “how can I reframe my perceptions to create a more positive meaning?” Thirdly: “what new opportunities can I explore by reframing my perceptions?” And, finally:  “how can we see the world differently.?”

The “Perception is Projection” principle suggests that individuals project their beliefs, attitudes, and values onto others. This principle is based on the idea that we see the world not as it is but as we are.

Research has shown that this principle can significantly impact our lives, relationships, decision-making processes, and well-being. For example, individuals with negative self-perceptions may project those negative beliefs onto others, leading to conflict or strained relationships.

One study by researchers at the University of Minnesota found that individuals with negative perceptions of themselves were likelier to project those negative beliefs onto others. The study also found that individuals aware of their projections were more likely to experience positive outcomes in their relationships on all levels.

Another study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that individuals who projected their own beliefs onto others were more likely to judge those individuals based on those projections rather than their actual behaviour. This suggests that our perceptions can be a powerful force in shaping our attitudes and behaviour toward others.

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Overall, understanding the principle of “Perception is Projection” can benefit us personally and professionally. By being aware of our projections and working to reframe our perceptions, we can create more positive outcomes and build stronger relationships.

Contact me at Self and More Coaching for a Discovery Session. My programs include tools and tips that we work through, reframing your perceptions and creating a more favourable outcome in your personal and professional life, using NLP, Life Alignment, and Trauma Release-based methodologies QEC & TRE.

Start by asking yourself: “what are my current perceptions, and how do they affect my decision-making daily on an ongoing basis?”

In conclusion, our perceptions heavily influence our decision-making, and it’s crucial to be aware of this to create a more positive outcome. By learning to use the techniques avail via NLP, we can reframe our perceptions and create new, more positive meanings. Let’s start by examining our current perceptions and work towards creating a brighter future for ourselves and others.

Much love, as always


Don’t forget that, as an introduction and preamble to my six-week course on getting to know your inner child and exploring the value of freedom and independence, I have an eBook for you to download: The Lingering Wounds of the Inner Child. It is a simple introduction to your inner child, how to connect and heal your wounds, and integrate the new relationship with self-love and compassion.

Movement is a key component to a healthy body and mind.

Our bodies were designed to move and when we do, we feel better mentally and physically. Movement helps us to build strength, flexibility, agility and balance.

One way to move your body in a way that feels natural and in rhythm with your body is to incorporate Pilates, Callanetics, Stretch and Tone and Body Sensing. Pilates is a form of exercise that focuses on strengthening the core muscles and improving flexibility. Callanetics is a low-impact exercise that focuses on toning and lengthening the muscles. Stretch and Tone is a form of exercise that combines stretching and strength training. Body Sensing is a form of yoga that focuses on sensing and feeling the body in order to move with more awareness.

When you move your body in a way that feels natural, you are more likely to stick with it. These forms of movement are all easy to follow and can be done at home if you wish or in person in groups with little to no equipment. Move your body in a way that feels good for you and you will be on your way to a healthier body and mind.  

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Talking from the Heart is my personal blog and – three to four times a month – I write about things that are important to me, and to my world, and hopefully to your world as well. Here are two of my most recent entries.

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Cold water immersion, also known as cold water therapy, is immersing oneself in cold water for a set period. It has been gaining popularity recently due to its many benefits, such as reducing inflammation, boosting the immune system, and increasing circulation.  Search Wim Hof for his work on the benefits.  This is my experience.

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